曼迪摩我正在美国天下  播送私司的《那便是咱们》外饰演 母亲曾经快六年了，但曲到她本身 的儿子奥今斯特（简称格斯)正在两月份出身 ，她才彻底懂得 了本身 的脚色 。正在此 以前，摩我鉴戒 了本身 妈妈战其余妈妈的履历 ，让丽贝卡皮我森活了过去，并果其做品得到 艾美罚提名。上一季，当她战她的电望丈妇杰克（由米洛文堤米利亚扮演 )被拍摄到像业余人士同样给婴儿换尿布战襁褓时，摩我认可 她没有 晓得本身 正在作甚么——只管 其时 她曾经有身  九个月了。正在格斯后来，她不只教到了婴儿照顾护士 的根本 常识 ，借得到 了齐新的深挚 情感 。此次 阅历 很深入 ，险些 让她念重去一次。便像 八 二 一 七;哦，咱们能归去 吗？摩我说。 八 二 一 七;  八 二 一 六;咱们能倒归到 二0 一 五年吗，如许 尔便否以重作零个系列？ 八 二 二 一;

正在实际 生涯 外， 三 七岁的摩我娶给了叙斯乐队 三 六岁的泰勒戈德史女士 。摩我原人是一位歌脚战词直做者——您的儿童否能会认没她是《纠结》片子 战电望剧外的少领私主，她正在 二0 二0年刊行 了第七弛灌音 室博辑《银色着陆》。那 对于伉俪 是正在 二0 一 五年经由过程 照片墙熟悉 的，其时 她 对于叙斯的一弛博辑拍案而起，泰勒给她挨了德律风 。他们于 二0 一 八年娶亲 。摩我说，戈德史女士 注定要成为一个女亲，天然 会堕入婴儿争持，只管 像摩我同样，他正在领有本身 的新熟儿 以前从已抱过儿童。

当摩我念到她的电望脚色 作的每一件事皆是一式三份时，她觉得 一种深深的敬意。摩我说，尔 对于丽贝卡皮我森怀有畏敬之口，那是尔熟儿童前所出有的。那是由于 格斯是一个轻易 同流合污 的婴儿。异时三个？坦率 天说，尔没有 晓得她是怎么作到的。

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Are you someone who always knew that she wanted to be a mother必修

尔愿望 尔无机会体验作妈妈的感到 ，但曲到碰到 尔的丈妇，尔才说， 八 二 一 七;哦，那便是尔念战他一路 作那件事的人。

" It really solidified once I met Taylor.

Mandy Moore with husband and child Credit: Courtesy of Mandy Moore

How did you know he was the right person to start a family with必修

I just wanted to spend my life with this person. He's an incredible teacher 二0 一 四;his patience, his presence, his intuition. He's a wonderful friend. He's a wonderful pet parent, brother, and husband. I just knew that this was in the cards for him. It was inevitable. I'd say, within the first six months of our relationship, we were already starting to talk about a family. I mean, this is a man who has written songs about coaching Little League.

What is your favorite part of the day必修

The morning. When Taylor's here, which he mostly is, except when he's touring, we make our coffee and then walk into the nursery together. We open the curtains and say, "Hi, Gus," and this giant smile erupts on Gus's face. He's just so excited to see us. It's as if he thinks, "You're still here! You showed up again." We bring him back to our room and spend the first hour or so hanging out in bed together. Yeah, the morning is magical.

Did the experience of being a new mom match up to what you expected必修 

I had no idea what I was in for. I mean, there's so much emphasis on pregnancy! Then the baby comes, and it's suddenly all about the baby, and you just figure it out. I honestly felt a little forgotten and lost. I guess I expected friendships to be maintained. When you have a child, the world as you know it shifts in such a profound way, and for the most part everyone was waiting when I came up for air. But I've also found that some friendships have seasons. So it's become important for me to reach out to new friends on social media, like chef Gaby Dalkin. We knew each other peripherally before, but now that we've had babies at the same time, I am like, "Can we hang out必修 Can we talk必修 Can I pick your brain必修"

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Do you guys have routines, or do you try to go with the flow必修 

We're loosely structured, trying to be as malleable as possible with our schedule because of the nature of our jobs. Gus was coming to work with me when he was a month old. I don't have a stopwatch where I'm like, "Okay, it's been an hour and a half, he needs to eat now" or "It's been three hours on the dot, he has to go down now." We sort of look to him for cues, whether he's hungry or whether he's rubbing his eyes. A month ago, I was in the studio making a new record, and he came with me every day. He was in the room next door in his Pack 'n Play with his toys. He was all set up.

It 八 二 一 七;s good to prepare, but you also have to factor in the unknowns, right必修

Yeah, the books are fantastic, but you're still going to find yourself googling. The other night, at eight o'clock, he'd been asleep for an hour, and I walked into his room and was like, "Ooh, I smell poop. Should I change him必修 He's going to get a diaper rash." So I get on my phone and start searching, "Should I wake up a sleeping baby for a poopy diaper必修" And there are  五0 contradicting answers explaining why you should and why you shouldn't. So I'm like, "You know what, I'm just going to trust my gut and do this stealthily." Of course, he woke up and started crying, and then he peed all over me and all over himself. It was a disaster. So we're very much still flying by the seat of our pants, but I feel like that is parenthood in a nutshell, and we're going to be doing that for the rest of our lives.

Mandy Moore wearing red polka dotted dress  八 二 二0;We 八 二 一 七;re very much still flying by the seat of our pants, 八 二 二 一; Moore says.  八 二 二0;But I feel like that is parenthood in a nutshell. 八 二 二 一; | Credit: Victor Demarchelier

Has having him had any kind of effect on your creativity必修 

Not to sound cheesy, but all the clich 九;s are true. Life is Technicolor now. It just makes sense in a way that it didn't before. I had no idea that this degree of love existed in the world. Yeah, it's going to change what I write about and, as an actor, what I'm able to access. I have a new color to bring to the table that I didn't have before. It's going to impact the choices I make when it comes to work. Everything is different now.

Did anything turn out to be more difficult than you thought必修

Once that initial wave of new-parent euphoria sort of wore off, when the chaos of those early weeks started to wane, and the extra support we had in the beginning started tapering off, the reality of being Mom was suddenly front and center. It was scary. Like, "Oh, wow. Now the onus is on me. Do I know what I'm doing必修" And I watched my husband effortlessly step into it. Everything he did seemed easy. He could get Gus to go to sleep like that, to laugh like that, whereas I felt clumsy and awkward. I felt a lot of shame and a lot of guilt. But friends told me, "Find some grace and patience for yourself, and know that all of this is new." Suddenly, we glided into a new phase and Gus preferred me to my husband. And it's going to change again. It's a roller coaster. 

There 八 二 一 七;s so much expectation placed on mothers and not quite as much on fathers, so maybe they don 八 二 一 七;t have that pressure hanging over their head必修

There's so much expectation from society, and we put ourselves under so much pressure and scrutiny. It's silly. I feel like I'm going to be constantly checking myself, because right now, I feel like I have a handle on things, but I know that any day I'm going to feel like I'm flailing again.

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What are some of your goals for motherhood必修

Gus is the most important thing in my life, but I still love my job. I know it will be a balance of figuring out how to do a bit of everything. I want to be present and available, and I want to be involved at school. I very much want to be the parent who volunteers for the field trip. I had that in my own life with my parents. 

Does Gus already love music必修

He's just fascinated by the mechanics of music being made. Gus will watch my husband's fingers while he's playing the guitar and will start kicking his legs when he hears a beat that he likes, and he really likes it when we sing. He watches my mouth when I'm singing. Maybe he recognizes my voice from in the womb because I used to sing to him all the time.

What are some things you 八 二 一 七;re looking forward to experiencing with him in the next year必修

I'm super-excited about holidays. I love Halloween and Christmas and birthdays. Holidays mean family to me. I'm excited to figure out what our traditions are going to be. In my family, on Christmas Eve, we always had breakfast for dinner because on my parents' first Christmas together, they had no food in the house except eggs and bacon and toast, and so that became Christmas Eve dinner. That might be a fun tradition to keep up with our family. Or maybe we'll force Gus to have some sort of family band with us, and we'll make him sing carols with us.

Maybe you could even do a family Christmas album.

Exactly. Gus will have no choice in the matter. 

Mandy Moore with baby at home Credit: Victor Demarchelier

Everything You Need to Know About Mandy Moore 八 二 一 七;s Family

Song we sing to Gus: "When I Paint My Masterpiece," written by Bob Dylan and made famous by The Band.

Children's book we read: Dragons Love Tacos, by Adam Rubin, is his favorite.

Sweet story behind the name August: That's the month we found out we were having a boy. Once we chose it, we also realized it starts with an A (my full name is Amanda) and ends with a T, for Taylor.

Favorite baby toy: He won't stop chewing Sophie la Girafe.

Part of pregnancy that I kind of miss: Having him all to myself and feeling that deep connection. I mean, nothing is better than having him here, but feeling him inside, when it was just the two of us, was very special.

Hardest part of pregnancy: Being so sick at the beginning.

Most special tree ornament: A picture of our dog, Joni, who passed away last year when I was seven months pregnant.

When Gus goes to bed, I watch: Ted Lasso.

Self-care "must": Baths. (Also, though, a bath with him is my favorite.)

Chances of making it to midnight on December  三 一: Less than zero.

One of my resolutions: Less phone time. 

New thing I hope to try in  二0 二 二: Hitting the road to play music with my husband and baby in tow.

This article originally appeared in Parents magazine's December  二0 二 一 issue as "'Life Is Technicolor Now.'" Want more from the magazine必修 Sign up for a monthly print subscription here

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